Archive for March, 2010

Finally Loving Yourself

March 31, 2010

I’ve been thinking about Flylady’s definition of FLYing: Finally Loving Yourself. How does this match up with what the Bible says for me as a Christian? How does that compare to secular humanism’s definition of “loving myself” that has been yammered at me through various media for most of my life? I don’t think that there is, necessarily, a mutual exclusivity between the two sources of this message. I’m just thinking about it more and trying to refine my thoughts.


This Just Might Be My Totally Workable Flylady Routine

March 30, 2010

Despite everything going on recently, I might actually have discovered THE way of organizing my Flylady Routine to make it work, consistently, for me. Here it is: I plan to do everything (as in, Creativity, Swish and Swipe, Decluttering, Daily Zone Mission, Laundry Reboot, etc.) before the kids get up. I know this is really just a modification of my earlier plan for doing Decluttering and Zone Missions when Joey was available to supervise the small folk, but I’ve found that I can complete the tasks more consistently when I’m not depending on anyone else to provide the opportunity for me to complete them.

This arrangement has worked very well for me for several days. I think an important component of it is that I also do NOT do my blog post before I’ve completed everything. For some reason, I can do my blog post during snippets of the day when the kids are constructively occupied much more easily than I can do my Flylady Routine.

Perhaps the best thing about this new way of prioritizing my time is that I have nothing hanging over my head the rest of the day. I am finding that my mind is much clearer because I’m not constantly looking for that window of opportunity in which to complete some of my tasks. They are DONE! I’m even — now, don’t fall off of your chairs in a dead faint — consistently decluttering without any angst!

Flylady and Life

March 29, 2010

We’ve had a remarkable number of outside influences greatly impacting our lives over the past few months. When another challenge comes blasting at us, it usually requires a lot of mental and emotional effort. Naturally, my mind is diverted to the challenge and, usually, preoccupied with it.

But, I’ve observed a couple of interesting things since Flylady has been a part of my life, too, during these challenges. First, it is much easier to think about and deal with stuff when my home environment is tidy and peaceful. Second, when my mind seems to be flying in a multitude of directions, Flylady helps me focus on what it takes to maintain that tidy and peaceful home environment. Even when I’m just mentally and emotionally overwhelmed, my Flylady habits — because they are habits — kick in and it’s not that difficult to keep the laundry caught up, the sink shined, the bathrooms swished and swiped.

Thanks, again, Flylady!


March 28, 2010

I’m so excited about getting my first etsy listing posted yesterday, despite the distractions that life continues to toss at us. If it weren’t for Flylady’s admonishing me that I can do anything for 15 minutes and that things don’t have to be perfect to be a blessing, I might still be dreaming of getting my etsy store going. So exciting!

Saturday Creativity

March 27, 2010

I set aside today to work on my etsy store. There are tasks involved in getting my items in the store and up for sale that require more than 15-minute increments, so today I’m going to work on those tasks. I hope I can get my mind focused enough to accomplish my goals since I’ve set aside this time today.


March 26, 2010

Sometimes Life is so overwhelmingly overwhelming that Flylady takes a back seat. This is one of those times. But at least my sink is shiny.

Flylady and Perfectionism, Again

March 25, 2010

I liked Flylady’s Morning Musing today. I especially like the way she mentioned that:

We get emails wanting us to adapt our messages for Payroll SHEs, FLY Guys, Retired members, Stay At Home Moms, Work at home Moms, Single members, Single parents, people with MS, children . . . . The list could go on forever. Every one is an individual, each person believes that their situation is different and therefore our messages are not geared toward them. I get pretty tough with them, because I see their perfectionism rearing its ugly head.

As usual, Flylady is very perceptive about the root of our SHE tendencies, our excuses, our reluctance to just begin: perfectionism. And I think that perfectionism is like a weed. We’ve identified it. We’ve acknowledged its noxious, pervading influence on our lives. We think we’ve uprooted it. We think it’s gone from our lives. But, then, we find out that it’s sent out a root and, there it is again, rearing its ugly head.

The persistence of perfectionism in its many manifestations is one of the trickiest things to deal with, I believe, in developing my Flylady habits. This blog has been an extremely motivating tool for me in identifying the weedy perfectionism that might otherwise have resulted in my throwing in the Flylady purple rag long ago. I’m glad that Flylady is willing to keep addressing the root issues as well as the practical solutions to our SHE-ness.

Decluttering Continues

March 24, 2010

Even though decluttering was the habit last month, I can’t say that it truly became a habit for me during that time. So, I’m still trying to make it a part of my day. I’ve had some real success in this area (which is a big challenge for me) by setting the timer for only FIVE minutes. Five minutes is more than zero minutes. Five minutes of decluttering is more than zero minutes of decluttering. So far, so good.

Prioritizing Creativity is Working!

March 23, 2010

I am so excited to report that it’s been working very well to prioritize my creativity every morning! I’ve had no problems getting my Missions completed nor any of my other responsibilities. The best thing about prioritizing my creativity is that I stay “on a roll” and am always thinking about my next step during the day. Hurrah!

Flylady and Great Expectations

March 22, 2010

I read with great interest Flylady’s post on Great Expectations and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. Her description of how we fantasize all about an event, particularly an important event or a holiday, and then set ourselves up for disappointment is right on the money. I’ve done that to myself countless times since I was a child. For example, I remember envisioning middle-school dances ahead of time and how I would look in my new outfit and how the dance would unfold. There was no way that my vision would ever actually be reality, so I was usually somewhat disappointed. Most recently, I have found that I had unrealistic fantasies about family vacations. I envisioned our happy, well-behaved family traveling cheerfully down the road to our destination, singing songs together. The reality usually involved some major vehicle problem and a crying baby. Sigh. So, I really identified with what Flylady was describing and I started thinking about how I might be guilty of this very practice in day-to-day life, too.

Perhaps I tend to think that if I get all of my Flylady missions/habits/etc. completed each day, I will somehow be transformed into Happy Susie Homemaker and the whole family will be demonstratively grateful. When this obviously doesn’t happen, I am somewhat disappointed. Once again, I am reminded that my Flylady routines are intended to help me get things done that need to be done. They do not need to be my main life focus. The end. Period.

You know, I think I’m starting to get that message.