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Flylady and Self-Talk

June 4, 2010

I read Flylady’s “Do You Want to Feel Better?” post from a couple of days ago. A few things kind of popped out at me because I’ve been thinking about self-image and self-talk, lately. One part of her post that struck me was:

Our messy homes are just that, a symptom of something much deeper. A disease of the Spirit. You do not love yourself.

And there was this part:

When we take care of our minds, body and spirit, the rest will gradually fall right into place, but we have to find that starting place.

And this:

Several years ago, we were taught to fake it till you make it. Well this term works well for us. We can fake a smile and you know what, we will begin to feel happier. It is a proven fact.

We do not love ourselves. We have to start taking care of our minds, bodies and spirits. We need to start somewhere. Flylady was talking about these things in the context of recovering from depression. These thoughts came together for me in a different context today.

I was thinking about my auto-pilot self-talk. Now, I do make a pretty big effort to take care of my mind, body and spirit. Part of that involves eating right and exercising and being in the Word very, very consistently. Yet, if I glance at myself in the mirror, do I say, “Wow, look at that healthy, strong body that helps me meet my responsibilities”? Do I say, “Wow, look at that body that is the temple of the Holy Spirit”? Do I say, “Wow, look at that body that has been blessed to have given birth to several children”?

It’s probably not too surprising that my auto-pilot self-talk does not involve those positive statements. So, today I was asking myself WHY I am so critical of my physical appearance. It’s probably also not too surprising that perfectionism rears its ugly head again, here. Where and when did I ever get the subliminal idea that my body is not lovable if it is not perfect? From watching too many “Charlies Angels” episodes? Too many “Miss America Pageants”? From reading too many “Seventeen” magazines?

So, I decided that today I would start “somewhere” in changing my self-talk when I glance in the mirror. Eventually, I hope that my auto-pilot self-talk will reflect the fact that my body is strong and healthy and the temple of the Holy Spirit and lovable, even though it is not perfect.

Oh, and just in case anyone is interested in why I was thinking along these lines today, it is because today I bought a swim suit.


Water, Water, Water

June 3, 2010

I was very interested in Flylady’s post about this month’s habit of drinking water because she started the post with:

Have you been feeling a bit fatigued? Are you hungry all the time?
There could be a very simple reason for feeling tired and famished. You could be dehydrated.

“Are you hungry all the time?” was the question that caught my eye. I really started wondering how many times what I perceive as hunger is really dehydration. I make an effort to drink an adequate amount of water, but is it truly adequate?

So, this month, every time I feel hungry, I’m going to take a drink, first, and wait a moment to see if I am really hungry or just thirsty.

June’s Habit

June 1, 2010

I am rather excited about June’s Habit of drinking an adequate amount of water. Although I really make an effort to stay hydrated, I also get distracted sometimes. So, by focusing on this month’s Habit, I hope to make improvements.

Plus, as far as Flylady Habits go, this one is quite “painless.”

FLYing on Friday with My Flylady Timer

May 14, 2010

My timer has been my friend today. First I set it for 30 minutes, slipped it in my sweatshirt pocket and went for a 30-minute run. This was my first “official” training run in preparation for a half-marathon I hope to run this fall with some OLD members of my high school track team. I knew it would take the whole allotted 30 minutes for me to figure out how to set a 30-minute alarm on my cell phone, so I got out my timer and was back before I knew it.

Since then, my timer has helped me get ALL of the folded laundry put away, scrub the front of the kitchen cupboards AND clean the stove. Instead of feeling overwhelmed with the Kitchen Zone Missions that I hadn’t yet completed this week, I felt encouraged by my timer. Now, my timer is timing my little computer break and then I will re-set it to help me with my last kitchen chore.

Thanks, Flylady timer!

Another Out-of-Routine Day and Flylady

May 12, 2010

I have found that one of the biggest contributing factors in accomplishing my Flylady tasks does not involve writing my
Control Journal on a dry-erase board or setting my timer or using my fabulous purple tools. One of the biggest contributing factors in accomplishing my Flylady tasks involves actually being home. While I thoroughly enjoyed the activities that took me out of the house today, I cannot say that I managed to squeeze in all of my chores before I left.

I guess if I were out of the home every day, I would come up with a plan to fit that lifestyle. But this is sporadic, out-of-routine activity. Fun, but out-of-routine. And I haven’t developed a routine for out-of-routine days.

One More Post About Flylady and Thanksgiving

November 27, 2009

There I was yesterday morning, all calm and ready for the day, when Joey asked me why I looked deflated. I realized that I was feeling a little deflated because we weren’t having quite the “crowd” that we sometimes have at Thanksgiving since many of our usual guests were traveling to see their families this year. In the back of my mind, I was saying, Thanks to Flylady, I finally am able to have a stress-free Thanksgiving preparation, but since we aren’t having as many people over as usual, I don’t get to experience the full benefit of it.

Then, I thought that THE biggest benefit of preparing for Thanksgiving using Flylady’s Holiday Control Journal is that my family got to enjoy the days leading up to Thanksgiving with a mom and wife who was not running around barking orders and getting cranky for fear that everything would not be prepared in time. How could having any more people over for the meal result in any bigger benefit than that?

Also, before we take down our Tree of Blessing, I wanted to mention some inspiration God gave me through it. We love to use Ann Hibbard’s Family Celebrations books. I mean, we love to use them. As part of the Tree of Blessing devotions in her Family Celebrations at Thanksgiving and Alternatives to Halloween, we were reading 2 Kings 4:1-7 about the widow whose late husband’s creditor was coming to take her two boys as his slaves. God, through Elisha, told the woman to get a lot of empty jars from her neighbors, go home and shut the door and pour what little oil she had into each one. As you know, she miraculously filled all of the jars with oil which she sold to pay off her debts and still have money to live on.

About this story, Ann Hibbard wrote:

God did not simply make a pile of money magically materialize in this woman’s house. He did a tremendous miracle, and He made sure that she had more than she needed. But He required that she trust and obey. She needed to believe that Elisha was speaking for God (trust), and she needed to borrow jars and pour oil (obey). If we want to see God do amazing things, we too need to believe His Word and do what He has told us to do.

This is true in so many areas of my life. Through Flylady, God shows me a way to be a good steward of everything He has given me, to provide a peaceful home environment for my family, to be rid of CHAOS and frustration and guilt. But, I have to obey that leading. My home will not magically be transformed. It is up to me to do the necessary work. This goes for my being rid of Body Clutter, too. Through the South Beach Diet and Jazzercise, God has provided a way for me to be a good steward of the body He has given me. But, I have to obey that leading and follow through. My body will not magically stay free of clutter. I have to do the necessary work.

This whole idea extends into my desire to have more time to be creative. God has shown me that if I prepare and dedicate a specific area in our craft room for my work, I will be able to more easily be creative on a daily basis. But this area will not be magically prepared. I need to do the necessary work. And I think I’ll start on that right now, before we start going full throttle with Christmas preparations.

A Little Bit at a Time

October 21, 2009

One of Flylady’s concepts has been on my mind the last couple of days. This concept was something that I, a procrastinating perfectionist, had never considered applicable to my homemaking, which was usually all-or-nothing. In fact, it had never crossed my mind. Of course, I’m talking about breaking up large, daunting tasks into 15-minute chunks of time.

Now that we’ve utilized this 15-minute concept over the last several months, I’ve seen how it holds true in many other facets of life. And I’m thinking of the idea that a little bit of effort over time can yield BIG results. Lately, I’ve been thinking about how the general idea applies to my Body Clutter challenges. This can be good and not-so-good.

First, the good. I Jazzercise and do the Leslie Sansone Walk the Walk DVDs every week, and I started realizing that, sometimes, I am not working to my full capacity. It’s not that I’m especially tired or injured or anything, I’m just not really lifting my knees very high or stretching my arms very far. I’m not making the most out of the time I’m spending exercising. When I began observing the people at Jazzercise and on the Walk the Walk DVDs who appear the most fit, I noticed that they seem to put that extra little bit of effort into each movement. They lift their knees a little higher, they stretch their arms a little more. These little extra movements and effort obviously have a cumulative effect. So, I’ve been putting a little more effort into each of my workouts and I think that I am benefiting.

Second, the not-so-good. Since I’ve rid myself of any Body Clutter and want to keep it that way, I am always aware of what I am eating. I have noticed how easy it is to snitch that extra bite. A snitched bite doesn’t “count,” right? But, a little extra bite, here and there, over time, cumulatively does count.

Thanks to Flylady, I’m seeing how little bits can cumulatively add up, both for good and not-so-good.

Flylady and Long Car Rides

October 15, 2009

Yesterday, Joey, Lydia, Charlotte and I spent 8 hours in the car driving to and from a frustrating, unproductive doctor’s appointment for Lydia. However, on several fronts, the day could be declared a success. How could that be, you ask?

First, Joey and I had eight hours to talk. Lovely. Charlotte and Lydia contentedly watched videos and napped the whole time we were driving, so Joey and I were able to cover a lot of topics without interruption. That, alone, is a treat.

One topic that had been rummaging around in my brain involved the way I speak to others. I have been studying Colossians in my John MacArthur quiet time Bible study. Colossians 3:21 (Amplified Bible) says:

Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children [do not be hard on them or harass them], lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. [Do not break their spirit.]

John MacArthur believes that a more accurate translation for “fathers” is “parents.” “Parents” includes mothers, doesn’t it? I was then inspired to examine my tone of voice when I am speaking to the kids. This is where Flylady comes in. Having two pre-school-aged children and a couple of children who function in that realm developmentally, I have to give a lot of instruction a lot of the time. These children do not automatically jump in and participate in a Flylady routine written in my Control Journal. I have to instruct, instruct, instruct. Does this get tiring? Oh, yeah. And are my other children completely exempt from requiring instruction in Flylady routines? Nope.

So, all of these potentially-tiring instructions can easily start coming out of my mouth in an impatient, irritating tone of voice. The last thing I want to do is fret or discourage my children. I especially don’t want to fret or discourage them when it comes to establishing and maintaining Flylady routines. I want them to embrace the whole Flylady concept so that they can benefit when they are running their own households one day. You can bet I’ll be watching my tone of voice more carefully, now.

Second, while I was talking, I got to CRAFT! Woo-hoo! I’ll post more about what I’m crafting later, but I was pretty pumped to have a couple of projects completed yesterday.

Third, we ate lunch at Jason’s Deli. I’ve only eaten there once before, but I really like their salad bar. AND those fabulous pumpkin seed crackers. I get a kick out of being able to have something really tasty (and organic!) for lunch that is South Beach Diet-friendly. I guess I am easily amused, eh?

Fourth, we went to Whole Foods. I haven’t been to Whole Foods since they moved (and that’s been a LONG time). What a treat! I am planning to spend quality time in that store sometime soon so I can discover new products to add to our United Natural Foods order.

So, there you have it: talking, crafting and good food made up for a long drive (and a very rude doctor).

Panera, Starbucks and Body Clutter

October 14, 2009

Mom treated Clara and me to Panera Bread for lunch the other day. I totally avoid this restaurant because the title contains the word “bread.” So, I was pleasantly surprised to find an Asian Sesame Chicken Salad on the menu that, holding the fried wonton strips and using only half of the dressing, worked splendidly with the South Beach Diet guidelines.

Later that afternoon, she treated us to Starbucks. I can’t say that I totally avoid Starbucks, but I usually order something decaf, non-fat, no sugar. This time, the herbal teas caught my eye so I tried a caffeine-free “autumn” tea blend that was delicious.

Thanks, Mom, for broadening my horizons, but not my hips.


October 5, 2009

In my constant quest to eat tasty meals while keeping the Body Clutter at bay, I consume a lot of salads. I am so happy to report that our local grocery store is now carrying arugula. (If anyone who lives in a city ever reads this blog, that last sentence will probably seem humorous, but if any reader lives in a small, rural town like we do, you’ll appreciate the sincerity of my enthusiasm!)

I threw together a salad based on my yummy arugula that included salad shrimp, green olives, cherry tomatoes right off of my dad’s tomato vines and a little bit of light Italian dressing. This is not worthy of mention on any cooking show, obviously, but it made me happy. Happy and full.