Posts Tagged ‘Control Journal’

My Version of Flylady Post-Its

May 3, 2010

If I recall accurately, Flylady mentioned that when she first began developing her Control Journal, she put Post-It notes describing specific habits on her mirror and moved/removed them as she completed each task. I think I would benefit from a visual reminder of specific tasks that I am aiming to complete on any one day. My Control Journal tends to stay rather out-of-sight on my counter, so there’s not much accountability. Also, since no one else ever looks at my Control Journal, there are not many opportunities for anyone to surprise me by completing one of the day’s tasks.

So…I think I will get a dry-erase board and post my daily tasks on it. I’ll hang it where everyone can see it and, therefore, hold myself accountable. Plus, anyone who wants to join in the fun will have the opportunity.

Brainstorming About Flylady “No Matter What”

April 14, 2010

I think I’m getting some more insight into how Flylady “No Matter What” might look in my life. For example, when I am having to work exercise into my day, I have to determine how long my exercise session is going to be and then figure out when I can complete it. Similarly, I need to know specifically which Flylady chores I plan to complete on a certain day and how long I will need to complete those chores. I can’t just think generally, Oh, we’re in the Kitchen Zone this week, and be able to accurately plan how long I will need. The amount of time I need to clean the trash can is different than the amount of time I need to scrub the counters.

I haven’t really thought through my Flylady Routine in a detailed, timed way like this because I’m usually home all day, most days. Lately, I’ve found my schedule less predictable and I’m having to fine-tune a little. But, I have hope that these new insights will lead to success in keeping up with my Flylady chores even if or when I am out of the house.

Flylady and Life

March 29, 2010

We’ve had a remarkable number of outside influences greatly impacting our lives over the past few months. When another challenge comes blasting at us, it usually requires a lot of mental and emotional effort. Naturally, my mind is diverted to the challenge and, usually, preoccupied with it.

But, I’ve observed a couple of interesting things since Flylady has been a part of my life, too, during these challenges. First, it is much easier to think about and deal with stuff when my home environment is tidy and peaceful. Second, when my mind seems to be flying in a multitude of directions, Flylady helps me focus on what it takes to maintain that tidy and peaceful home environment. Even when I’m just mentally and emotionally overwhelmed, my Flylady habits — because they are habits — kick in and it’s not that difficult to keep the laundry caught up, the sink shined, the bathrooms swished and swiped.

Thanks, again, Flylady!

Getting Back to Routine

March 10, 2010

After being out of routine for a few days during the dog grooming competition, I’m finding it a bit of a challenge to get back into routine. Thankfully, Flylady and my Control Journal provide the structure to ease my way back. And Joey kept the sink shiny and Mt. Washmore under control. Thanks, Flylady and Joey!

Feeling Rushed

March 6, 2010

I find that, over time, I tend to work into a state of feeling rushed. I feel like I’m hurrying to get one Flylady task finished so I can jump into the next one and the next and the next. I’ve talked about this before, so it’s nothing new. Perhaps this is just an area that I will continually be examining and attempting to resolve.

Once again, I am asking myself if I actually can accomplish what I’ve set out to do in the time I have been given in any one day. There is definitely not an “I don’t have time” excuse element in this question. I believe I sometimes develop unrealistic expectations about what any single person can actually achieve in 24 hours.

So, I’m examining my routine and determining if I’m realistic in my expectations.

Adjusting Flylady to Fit for the Long Run

February 27, 2010

I was encouraged to read THIS Flylady testimonial. Why? Because this person has been FLYing for ten years. Ten years! So often, the testimonials reflect the enthusiasm we have ALL felt when we first started FLYing and saw the remarkable difference that Flylady routines made in our lives. Yet, I would venture to bet that there comes a time in most Flybabies lives when that enthusiasm for the novel, the new routine, the initial relief from CHAOS comes up against the reality of the habitual effort that it will take to maintain this new lifestyle.

Thankfully, Flylady addresses these issues regularly to keep us all on the right path. She reminds us that we don’t have to be following everything perfectly to bless our family. We can keep jumping in where we are.

I think that another component of successfully utilizing Flylady routines for the long run is adjusting the routines to fit our individual lifestyles, like THIS testimony described. As I write this blog, I am continually thinking about how to adjust my Flylady routine to best fit our large, homeschooling family. And I hope, hope, hope I can encourage others to do the same.

Flylady Miscellany

February 25, 2010

Today, the Flylady part of my brain is thinking about:

– how I’ve managed to keep up with the Master Bedroom Zone Missions this week;

– how I tidied up my refrigerator front because Flylady issued the surprise challenge;

– how I’m going to get the feather duster out and give it a good workout this morning;

– how I’m very grateful that Joey does the mopping!

Thinking About Balance

February 19, 2010

I’ve had some thoughts about balance this week. I’m not sure that I’ve developed them into a cohesive, working conclusion. But if I write them down, maybe that will help with the cohesion.

First, I was thinking about balance itself. The balance that I’m trying to reach is both a mental and physical balance. If my Flylady routines are taking up a respectable amount of my day, physically, but I’m constantly thinking of the next chore I’m “supposed” to be doing, I’m off balance. And if I get to the point of spending most of my day physically completing Flylady tasks, I’m also off balance. Flylady routines are tools for me to use to efficiently keep my house out of CHAOS. Yes, in a house and family of this size, I will end up spending quite a bit of time each day physically completing homemaking tasks. This is one of the facts that Flylady helped me face when I first started to develop my Control Journal. But, there is really not a day of the week in which my Flylady routines should dominate me, mentally or physically. If I sense that I am drifting in that direction, I can recognize that I am getting off balance. (And, now, I’m going to be thinking about what might set me off in that direction to start with.)

Second, I think that a contributing factor to getting off balance is trying to develop a new habit, like decluttering. Typically, I don’t give much thought during the day to my firmly entrenched Flylady habits. I never give shining my sink a second thought. I don’t anticipate or plan for swishing and swiping. I just complete these tasks automatically. But when I’m trying to develop a new habit, I put more intentional thought into it. I also think that the decluttering habit is especially difficult for me to develop without a lot of extra mental energy because it requires decision-making every single time. I don’t have to decide anything when I’m shining my sink or swishing and swiping. Consequently, I don’t dread doing those chores and I don’t think about them ahead of time. This whole decluttering habit is requiring way more mental focus than I anticipated and it’s knocking me off balance.

Third, I’ve been thinking about excuses. Of course, Flylady’s job is to get us off of our frannies and get us going, no excuses. However, I might have a tendency to get off balance in recognizing what is a legitimate reason for modifying my Control Journal routine versus what is an excuse. I believe that I honestly know when I’m making an excuse for, say, not putting away the folded laundry immediately. I also can recognize when I sincerely need to modify my routine when there is an out-of-the ordinary event influencing my day. But, somehow, I hear Flylady accusing me of making excuses when there really is a legitimate reason for leaving the laundry on the folding table for a couple of hours. So, I can get off balance when I’m not acknowledging and trusting that I can honestly recognize if I am making an excuse for modifying my Control Journal routine or not.

Fourth, — and I think this might be the most important musing on balance — I am not Flylady. Flylady’s JOB is to focus on Flylady stuff. She obviously spends much of her time writing about, thinking about, actively promoting Flylady routines. I’m really, really glad that she does, so I don’t have to! Because I am NOT Flylady, I am off balance if I am thinking about Flylady routines more than I am thinking about other aspects of my life, like spiritual growth, parenting, homeschooling, creativity, marriage, health, serving others, etc. MY focus is going to be different than her focus, if I am staying balanced.

And, by the way, I wonder if getting off balance and trying to follow Flylady’s routines to perfection is the point where some people give up and throw in the towel entirely, claiming that Flylady routines don’t “work” for them. For example, in my own life, I have to acknowledge that I spend way more time exercising than Flylady has built into her daily routine. I spend at least an hour, six days a week, exercising, not 15 minutes. This is my balance point for exercising.

Well, I’ve rambled on today, but, hopefully, I’ve made a start at developing some cohesive conclusions about Flylady routines and balance.

Balance Check

February 16, 2010

Time for a balance check. I have some judge’s scales in mind. Or I’m kind of imagining a photographer holding up a piece of paper in front of the subject to be photographed to get the camera’s white balance set. Or maybe zooming out for a moment to get a bigger picture. Maybe none of that makes sense. Or maybe you get the idea….

While trying to develop a new Flylady habit (decluttering, obviously) can be rather exciting and challenging, it can also knock me off balance a little bit. I find myself thinking way too much about my Flylady routine and how I can fit every last little Flylady thing into my day. My Control Journal starts controlling me instead of being a tool that I use to control my day.

Any of you true SHEs will recognize that this is just residual perfectionism/all-or-nothing-ness rearing its head. But now, instead of throwing up my hands and scrapping the whole Flylady routine, I can just wave to my terminally ill perfectionism and do a balance check. I can put what I want to accomplish in my day on one side of the scale and compare it to what Flylady is admonishing me to do, knowing that I can strike a healthy balance. I can hold up the sheet of paper with Flylady’s routine on it to my subject (me!) and get a white balance. I can zoom out and see how Flylady’s routines fit into my bigger picture. Okay, maybe none of that makes sense.

Or, maybe, you get the idea….

Flylady and Mondays

January 12, 2010

On Monday, I felt like I was on the verge of coming down with a cold. I also felt extremely tired in the morning. I attributed this to recently having gone from one major event to the next, to the next, to the next, etc. Yesterday was the first day in weeks — well, actually months! — that I wasn’t preparing for a significant family holiday celebration or a daughter’s wedding. My body was just saying, “Whew! That’s all behind me!”

Yet, I found that it wasn’t very difficult to accomplish yesterday’s Zone Missions in the bathrooms. Nor was it hard to get my two loads of laundry done. Or shine the sink. I just love it that these household chores are habits and that they aren’t a huge effort anymore. So, when I’m not feeling quite up to snuff, I can still get stuff done around the house without overtaxing myself.

And, I’m happy to report, several cups of Echinacea tea and a long nap have revived me quite well.