Posts Tagged ‘Flylady’

More on Leadership

April 13, 2010

Aha! Yes! I remembered the other thing I wanted to say about effective leadership: It is based in LOVE!

Today, our MOPS speaker read I Corinthians 13:4-7 out of the Amplified Bible (which I use a lot):

4Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

5It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

6It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.

7Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].

Wow. Just think about that. Love is ever ready to believe the best in every person. Its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances. It is not touchy or fretful or resentful. God’s love in us, that is. Without being in a dynamic, right relationship with God, I cannot even remotely dream that I can show this kind of love in leadership, in my family or out in the world. Thankfully, I am in right relationship with Him, through Jesus, and He draws me continually closer.

What does this have to do with Flylady? Well, you know, I’m not really totally sure. I do know that when I am leading my children toward better Flylady habits, I need to be leading them in LOVE. When I am trying to fit in my Flylady chores when I am so very out-of-routine, I need to blanket the whole thing in LOVE so that I don’t become touchy or fretful. Yep, that’s what this has to do with Flylady.

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Flylady and Leadership

April 12, 2010

I’ve been thinking of effective leadership in several different contexts the past few months. I think Flylady demonstrates some effective leadership that I want to emulate. First, she is entirely empathetic, and consequently, non-judgmental when it comes to understanding why someone is in the position to seek her help. She’s been there and done that. Second, she is no-nonsense and straightforward in her presentation of the solutions she has devised. She doesn’t beat around the bush. But, because she is so empathetic, I am willing to listen to her straight-forward solutions. Third, she continues to encourage.

I thought I had a few more applicable points when it came to Flylady and leadership, but I’m so tired right now that I think I need to sleep on it…so, this might be a “stay tuned” post.

Human Beings, the Art of Denial and Flylady

April 7, 2010

We humans are so interesting. We all have traits that could benefit from improvement. Usually, those around us keep quiet about those traits (perhaps giving the Holy Spirit an opportunity to work, perhaps avoiding confrontation) until the impact of the manifestations of those traits become intolerable. Then, we deny that these traits exist and turn the “issue” back on the person who brought it to our attention. It’s absolutely fascinating to watch this happen again and again with all kinds of people.

For example, I very obviously had an issue with perfectionism that resulted in CHAOS. Joey tolerated this for years, until it became intolerable. Then, he ventured to mention it to me, only to incur my denial and wrath when he did. (“Did you marry me only to be your MAID?”)

I would have saved myself — and him — a lot of frustration if I had just taken a moment to inquire of myself if this were really true. I mean, eventually, I did and that led me to Flylady and the rest is happy history. What would happen if each of us were willing to hear, the FIRST time, when others voice concerns to us about our behaviors?

I wonder….

Wow! Lots of Inspiration Happening This Week!

April 1, 2010

Looking at some etsy-associated blogs and websites has been very inspiring this week as I’ve continued to prioritize creativity in my daily Flylady routine. There are so many gifted women out there creating and inspiring others. It’s just contagious! (Oh, dear, so many exclamation points. I’m afraid the punctuation police will be after me.)

I’ve also been inspired by II Corinthians 1: 3-4:

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, Who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

I have been talking with Joey and the kids a lot lately about our responses to being “unhappy.” I had some really important inspirations about this topic lately. When I get bogged down with circumstances and relationship challenges and just plain tired and worn out with life’s responsibilities, I can get quite self-focused. As I talk to others about this, I see that it is a common response. The more “unhappy” we feel, the more self-focused we become, as if the pursuit of happiness (or, at least, the relief from unhappiness) is our biggest goal in life.

Then, I started thinking about II Corinthians 1 because Clara had brought it to my attention last week. When we are sad, lonely, overwhelmed, etc., we are comforted by the God of all comfort SO THAT we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. In my sadness, loneliness, fatigue, I learn how to comfort others who are experiencing the same thing. This reaching out to comfort others is very different from making all kinds of self-focused effort to get rid of my own unhappiness.

I think this is what Flylady did. She had issues that all of we SHEs have. She was inspired with solutions and strength to carry out the solutions. THEN she turned to comforting others in the same situations. I am inspired to be “Flylady” to someone who needs the comfort that I have experienced.

Flylady and Balance

March 19, 2010

Yesterday, I happened to be carting some stuffed animals back to their true home in the playroom and I walked by the computer. I glanced at my Inbox and noticed this: Finding Balance with Flylady. My heart started racing. Was Flylady reading my mind? Or — could it possibly be — my blog? Excited to hear what Flylady had to say about a topic that is constantly on my mind and despite the fact that Anne’s physical therapist was still working with her upstairs, I quickly clicked on the link to listen.

Now, if I had read THIS earlier post, I might have had a clue that the show was really about the Palm Pre Plus phone from Verizon. However, I hadn’t read that, yet, so I was clueless. It took me a moment to realize what was actually being discussed and by whom and why.

In theory, being able to use a Palm Pre Plus phone from Verizon would help me achieve some semblance of balance in my life. It has taken me over half an hour to post this short blog entry because of our ancient-and-decrepit computer combined with our I-might-as-well-hand-deliver-this-post-to-each-and-every-one-of-you-slower-than-molasses-but-I-have-no-other-option-rural-satellite-internet-connection. If I had any kind of tool and internet connection that was even remotely up to 21st Century speed, it would save me a tremendous amount of time and frustration each and every day, freeing up hours for creativity, completing my Zone Missions, etc.

However, my house is made of Polysteel. That means that I am encased in concrete. That means that I get no cell phone reception inside my house. So, as lovely as it sounds, the Palm Pre Plus phone from Verizon will not be helping me find Balance with Flylady.

I guess I’ll just keep searching for that Balance myself.

Flylady and Degrees of Separation

March 9, 2010

Clara, Jacob, Tim and I just returned from a “little” road trip. Joey valiantly held down the fort here so we could accompany Jacob while he competed in a dog grooming competition. While Jacob concentrated on dog grooming, Clara and I got to meet up with some dear friends for lunch (::waves:: to Mary, Sara and Laura). These dear friends happen to live in Brevard. Their real estate agent happens to know Flylady personally.

So, does that mean there are merely three degrees of separation between Flylady and me?

Flylady Gets Inside My Head, Again

January 27, 2010

Flylady, as usual, knows what is going on in my head. She demonstrated this very recently with this post on “Why Your Home Gets Messy.” I especially liked the part where she said:

Your home gets messy because you don’t think you have time clean it up!

Oh, and there was this observation:

When we quit blaming others for the messiness then we will start to see windows of opportunity to pick up and put away.

But Flylady always offers a solution to the issues she helps me identify:

The keys to keeping your home clean is to pick up after yourself, get rid of clutter and to quit complaining that you don’t have time.

And she always gets very specific:

Those words, “I don’t have time” are a red flag for you! They tell you that your perfectionism is taking over. When you hear yourself say those words or think them; I want you to pick up 5 things and put them away.

This is why Flylady works for me. She helps me identify the sabotaging self-talk. THEN she offers me a practical, do-able solution.

I love Flylady!

Happy Anniversary to Flylady and Me!

January 13, 2010

This week, on Monday, Flylady and I celebrated our first anniversary! What a life-changing year this has been. And I look forward to many more years together.

Happy Anniversary, Flylady!

Flylady’s 2010 Motto

December 29, 2009

Lately, I have been thinking about my Flylady routines and my motivators for getting things accomplished. I still catch myself procrastinating at times. As usual, I want to get to the root of the problem so that the solution is not just a temporary fix.

One thing I’ve noticed is that I don’t take advantage of actually using the timer. It’s more like I mentally acknowledge that it’s not going to take very long to complete a task, so I might as well not put it off. But, I rarely go get the timer and set it for 15 minutes. I was also thinking that I should really start using the timer to work in my creative time each day.

Then, I saw Flylady’s post on the 2010 motto. I wonder if all of my musings were based on my already having seen that motto, but forgetting what it was! Or, maybe, it was God-incidence.

In any case, after the wedding, my timer is going to get a serious workout because “My Timer is My Friend in 2010.”

Flylady Dreams

November 5, 2009

Last night, I had a dream. This is not big news. However, in this particular dream, I was meeting Flylady.

I wonder if she ever reads blogs like this one….